Wondering If A Man You’ve Been Seeing Is Super Into You… Or Not? These 5 Easy-to-Misread Signs That A Man Likes You May Really Surprise You!
Are you painstakingly searching for signs of your man’s true feelings for you? Are you asking yourself, “How do I actually know for sure that he’s actually really into me?”
Well, as you’re probably aware, the internet is full of all kinds of advice for how to know if a man likes you. Is he calling you? Is he pursuing you? Blah, blah, blah…
And the the thing is, these insights aren’t wrong, but they’re typically either really vague or really obvious.
So I want to take a different approach and share with you five lesser-known signs that a man you’ve been seeing regularly is definitely digging you.
These five signs apply to a man you’ve been dating or that you’re even getting kind of serious with – we’re not talking about randos here! 😉
Now, you might not agree with all of these five signs at first glance, but trust me, men do some strange things when they like a woman. And yes, I mean LIKE-LIKE her. We ain’t talkin’ friendship here.
Okay, so here we go! Drumroll please…
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SIGN A MAN LIKES YOU # 1: He’s awkward
That’s right: AWK-WARD. Now you might be thinking, “Well, I don’t want a man who’s awkward! That’s weird, that’s boring.”
But let me tell ya, a man’s brain is wired in such a way that it’s actually NATURAL for him to get tense and nervous around a woman he likes. It’s because as men, we aim to please, to seek validation for a job well done, and we don’t want to screw up. We want to be perfect for you!
Our brains are actually like apartment complexes, with each separate brain function in a different unit. So if he’s in the “visual apartment,” he’s looking at you and thinking, “Man, she’s beautiful. Look at her, she’s gorgeous.”
He’s legit trying to have a conversation with you, but he’s so enamored with your beauty that the moment you ask him a question, he’s gotta run over to his “conversation apartment” where – whoops! – he completely forgets what you asked him because he’s running around and focusing on your hotness.
So if he does get a lil’ tongue-tied around you, that’s a good sign!
SIGN A MAN LIKES YOU # 2: He allows you to influence him
There’s all kinds of research that shows that one of the ways happily married couples interact is by influencing each other. Someone might say something to the other like, “Honey, try this new food,” or “Let’s go try that new restaurant,” and the other person jumps on board.
This is actually one of the primary ways growth happens in relationships! You learn from one another and try things out because the other person wants to.
When you float an idea of something you’d like to do or try, how does he respond? If he’s game for going salsa dancing at your suggestion, for example, you’ve got a guy who likes you!
There was a survey done with little kids that asked, “What is love?” and one little girl’s definition of love was, “When you tell a guy you like his shirt and then he wears it every day.”
That pretty much sums it up!
If you find that you’re influencing your man’s decisions, he’s super into you.
SIGN A MAN LIKES YOU # 3: He doesn’t make a move physically
Now, you might be thinking, “Whoa, whoa, whoa, wait a minute, Mat! I’ve heard the opposite… if my man’s not making a move, then he obviously doesn’t like me, or he’s keeping me in the friend zone!”
And this is true part of the time, for sure.
BUT… if you have a handsome, sexy, successful dude who has a track record of being able to get a woman into bed easily, then just know that his strategy is often different when he actually really likes someone, as opposed to just wanting to sleep with them.
This is because if he wants something serious with you, he wants to make you feel special.
He’s moving from Mr. Player-istic to Mr. Partner-istic, know what I’m sayin’? 😉
Now, here’s the nuance though, how to tell if he’s just keeping you in the friend zone versus moving you into the partner zone.
Look for consistency in his action. Is he moving the relationship forward? Is he progressing the time that you’re spending together? Is he opening up to you emotionally? Is he making slight moves or treating you in ways that are “not just a friend” by nature – touching you, holding your hand, having his arm around you?
If he’s doing that kind of stuff, then you’re definitely NOT in the friend zone. He’s into you!
SIGN A MAN LIKES YOU # 4: He doesn’t want you to meet his friends
This is another one that may seem counterintuitive, I know! It’s true that as we get more intimate and more emotionally connected with someone, we want to share deeper layers of our life with them, deeper circles with the people that matter the most to us.
But guess what? Your man, if he’s getting serious about you, is transitioning from his going-out-and-partying phase to his being-a-partner phase, and that’s going to change the nature of his friend group a little. Or a lot.
Now I’m NOT saying that he shouldn’t have friends, but as we grow up, not all of our friends come with us. So some of his friends from his bachelor days may be a little embarrassing for him, and he wants to keep you around without them saying or doing any anything dumb!
The same goes for family, honestly. Family can by tricky, and he doesn’t want to do anything to turn you off from him.
So pay attention to his vibe surrounding his peeps. If he hasn’t introduced you to his friends or his family, what’s an indication that he’s into you? Again, it comes down to progression.
Is he progressing the time he’s spending with you? Is he progressing the emotional connection that he has with you? Is there consistency in how you guys are moving forward? That’s actually the bigger sign that he’s into you then whether or not he’s introducing you to his family or his friends.
SIGN A MAN LIKES YOU # 5: He acts out for your attention
Alright now this one takes a bit of explaining. See, if a man is really into you, he’s gonna want your attention, and most people (yes, women do it too) seek attention by either going “under” or “over.”
Going “over” is pouring too much energy into you, and going “under” is retreating or withdrawing – pulling back his energy.
Here’s what I mean…
When I was dating, I would measure how successful my date was by how many times I could make the woman laugh and by how much fun we were having.
When I started dating my wife, I really liked her and so my tendency was to go into “over” mode. I would try to be super funny and energetic and she was little bit like, “Whoa, tiger. Slow down! You’ve got too much energy for me.”
I’d make all kinds of jokes and then sometimes I’d accidentally cross a line with something too dirty or whatever and she’d be like, “Ha ha… but that’s not okay,” and I’d have to dial it back.
Now “under” mode can be a bit harder to read accurately.
One of my friends once told me that he would measure the success of his date by whether or not he was intriguing and mysterious to the woman, like how many times she would try to get information out of him or how many times she would say, “So what are you thinking right now?”
And if the date wasn’t really going in that direction, he would be thinking to himself, “Have I looked into space enough? Have I like, been staring off into the nothingness?”
It sounds SUPER silly, but this is energy that, in his mind, is actually used to reel you in.
Now both “under” and “over” modes can be easily misread, so again, make sure you’re gauging the relationship by its overall progression. Because chances are, he’s just acting out for your attention!
Communication is key!
So there you have it – five unusual signs that a man is into you.
Just remember, beyond anything else, communicating openly and honestly with one another is always the most reliable, surefire way to know how you both feel.
If you love and respect yourself and know what you want from a man, and aren’t sure where he stands, you can always just ask him!
And as always, I’d love to hear from you. Hit me up in the comments below and share with me the signs you’ve experienced when it turns out a man is super into you!
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